For those of you who have or have had teens with autism you all know how hard meltdowns can be. It can be so very hard to watch your child struggle with self regulation as well as hard on you stress wise. There have been some weeks that have been awesome and there’s also been weeks that I label hell weeks. I’m sorry for those of you who don’t like to hear that, but it’s true I have had hell weeks and I know that some of you reading this have also had the same so that’s why I choose to describe it in that way because there is no other way to describe it.
￼￼ What I’ve learned from having a child with autism and other disabilities is that you need to have superhuman strength. I believe that fully relying on God is the only thing that will get you through the struggles that you face. When I say fully relying on God I don’t mean just waking up in the morning and praying. It is a heart change, a mind change and a life change. I literally have gone through years of reading, researching, and schooling to try to understand all about what my son is facing￼￼￼￼￼. I have also gone through years of reading, researching, and schooling to try to understand what I am facing mentally, spiritually, and psychologically. I will be the first to tell you that I still am learning. I love learning and I love the process of trying to understand how to make myself better so that intern I could have a peaceful family life. I also love learning and love the process of trying to understand different tools to help you to have a peaceful family life.
A few things to help when your teen has a meltdown are:
1. Make sure they are safe and everyone else is safe by scanning the room for dangerous objects that can be thrown etc…once everyone involved is safe walk away and give them space to scream and let go.
2. Ask if they are in pain, have hurts anywhere to see if they may have a medical issue like headaches, stomachaches etc… if so give appropriate medication to help.
3. If they are ok and starting to calm down put on some music and dance with them. Tell them that music is fun and show them how to wind down by either hanging out with them listening to music or dance with them.
4. Have a picnic snack on the living room floor. Snacks always brighten my day and it works too for Jaiden.
These are just a few real life things I do with Jaiden. There are tons of things you can do to help your teen too. You have to find out what’s best for them when they meltdown. It is not a tantrum, but a cry for help that they can’t communicate to you.
I hope you guys have teenagers with autism are doing well and when your child has a meltdown I pray that God give you the strength that you need to love the heck out of your child. Have a safe and happy Halloween 🎃 ￼￼￼.
“Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.” 1 Corinthians 13:7 CEV
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