Talking About Not Talking About It

When things get heavy on your heart who do you talk to? I am talking about not talking about your feelings. It’s hard when you have a child with severe special needs and they are also nonverbal to just talk to anybody about what you’re going through as well as what your child is going through and how you can barely help them any longer. I went to school for psychology, and for biblical counseling. I learned so many different ways and methods to cope when suffering is present. Lately, I have lost all my coping skills. I myself have been to therapy, and I have found that there are only so many therapists that truly listen. When I counsel/coach people I’m reminded to listen more than to give advice. After all, God gave us two ears and one mouth.

Right now I’m outside on the patio in the backyard watching Jaiden swing on his platform swing and I’m looking all around our beautiful backyard and I see the beautiful green trees and how the leaves are starting to change colors. I’m reminded of how things change so quickly. I remember at one time Jaiden was hard so hard to handle I was learning his behaviors, and back then it wasn’t too bad. I remember he was so tiny and he would pace back-and-forth and he also had vocalizations and mild screaming as he was younger and smaller. His smile would light up the room his singing was squeaky, but so cute. Nowadays, Jaiden is a 14-year-old in a man’s body with the brain of a three-year-old. He has problems with emotion regulation and screams like a banshee over 100 times a day. There truly is nothing you can do about it no one really can do anything about it and I know there are some parents out there that understand what we go through as a family as they to have a child that may scream even more than 100 times a day. (Forgive me for the run on sentences.) Heck, some of you may have two and three children that scream on a daily basis. According to Stephen a d Debra Wallace Advocates for Choice
Parents and Allies of Remarkable Texans
who recently has an article published in The National Council On Autism, “ Those on the severe end of the spectrum who demonstrate aggressive or self injurious tendencies continue to grow in numbers…. The simple fact is, thousands upon thousands of families will shortly be confronted by the need for more intensive care and treatment for their loved ones with autism. ”

I just got tired of talking about not really talking about the maladaptive behaviors that Jaiden experiences and all the things that go on in our household. I really feel like I need to talk about it as things have become so much more exacerbated and life has become increasingly difficult.

I homeschool Jaiden and his younger brother Sebastian and I knew it would be difficult some days, however last year was so much better. We Just begun this year so I am giving it some time before making some changes to the new school routine. I don’t want to give up just yet as I feel like I haven’t exhausted all of my resources. I knew that being a homeschooling mom I would be able to teach the boys how to be morally correct, how to respect, how to be helpful, and a whole bunch of other things that nowadays they’re not teaching in our regular schools. I don’t want to give up just yet. Jaiden has a slew of maladaptive behaviors as I’ve mentioned previously and I still feel like there’s hope that he may get the help that he needs in someway shape or form. I’m praying that there’s a solution to even help him just a little so that we are family life is not as chaotic.

Today I am a wife and mom who just needed to vent about everything that I have been going through. So that’s why I’m talking about not talking about it. I never really talked about how my heart aches for Jaiden daily, how I cry daily, and how I most days don’t know what to do with him. The one thing that I do know is that I love him with my whole heart and I will continue to try to be the best wife and mother I can be for all three of my boys. If you’re tired, a caregiver, A mother or a father taking care of special needs child I pray that you have the peace that you need and that your child is well and if you don’t have peace, and your child isn’t well… I’m with you. Really all I needed was for someone just to listen to me so thank you so much for reading and listening. I hope I can be there to listen to some of you too. Tomorrow is a new day and things will be different, for that I am grateful.

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Re-discover The Art Of Homemaking

When you hear the phrase “I am a homemaker.” It isn’t exactly praised in our society anymore. I used to say it with a little bit of insecurity until one day I talked with a medical secretary about making an appointment and when she asked what I did she noticed my insecurity as I said “ Yep, I am a homemaker.” She said “ Girrrl! That needs to change! Hold your head up high and say that you are a DOMESTIC ENGINEER! Your job is the most important job of all.” That day, I prayed for that woman to be blessed and I soon discovered, I’m most fulfilled as a woman through being Kevin’s wife, being the kids mom, and homemaking.

I now instead of working in healthcare measure cups of fresh flour, milk and spices. I crack a ton of eggs and make bacon. I make homemade biscuits and a few minutes later, the smell of freshly baked bread fills the house. 2021 ushered in a new beautiful beginning for us as a family.

Your Spouse:

My husband Kevin turned into an outdoor dude. Why? He had and made time. He got a John Deere tractor and has been loving our yard and cleaning it up on the regular. That’s what happens when you get to work from home. That’s a part of homemaking too. I always look for ways to love on my husband. He works hard too. Having three boys and one with severe special needs can be very challenging at times. Yard work is therapy just like how Homemaking times is therapeutic for me. I do encourage Kevin to go and get some peace, to go be with best friends so that he can have a breather which is needed weekly. Who am I kidding it’s needed daily at times.

Your Kids:

Homemaking is also showing your kids how to Follow Jesus. I’ve taught my children how to talk to Jesus, recite prayers for meals, bedtime, to pray for friends and family. I am also a worship singer at our local church so I regularly play worship music around the house. That isn’t all I play as I am a girl from the 80’s so I regularly play Guns N’ Roses, and hip hop on the Alexa devices too. We are a music loving family and that helps us with peace and home life.

What Happened When I Embraced Homemaking?

When I embraced Homemaking I didn’t dive head first into life at home, here’s what happened. I complained, cried and wished to go back to work. Once I surrendered to God and regained a new found confidence new projects were picked up like cooking, baking and enjoying meals with my family. Creative baked goods and meals came out of the oven. The laundry was done differently in our home. I make my own fabric softener now and make it a point to have the bedrooms with fresh sheets weekly.

I’m not a great homemaker EVERYDAY.

I have discovered a new sense of contentment that I never knew I could have. Homemaking has truly made me appreciate being a woman of God and I hope you as a woman of God find contentment in it too.

Fellas:

If you are a single dad, I pray you find contentment in running your household and loving on your kids too. I am not naive to the fact that there are single dads out there or even dads who have become widowed. I don’t know if that’s the right terminology, my apologies if it’s not. The facts are to appreciate the blessings of your family and of the life God has given you. You can do anything you set your mind to. Do whatever it is that truly gives you peace with your family. I know some dad that are kick ass at taking care of the home and their kids so amazing!

If you really think about it, I think you’ll find that loving your family truly does turn on that light inside of you. God blessed you with a home and family to care for and God knows it will bring you joy. When you do what God has called you to do, great joy comes with it. I do other things too as I mentioned before I am a worship singer, I podcast, write books and also am homeschooling. Homemaking is my main purpose and I love that now. It’s all about prioritizing and being present. That’s when the peace that surpasses all understanding comes. If you are able to make a living and stay home with your family, YOU ARE BLESSED. Trust me there is no greater happiness than being able to work from home and be there for your children.

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

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Don’t Run Away

A couple of years ago I said to my husband Kevin “Let’s not wait to move to where we want to live. Let’s create our life now.” I believe that we shouldn’t wait to move cause we’re afraid, or wait to workout cause we’re busy. Don’t wait till your perfect to take action toward things that matter the most we’ve got to go from victim role to the role model role.

The ultimate comeback story goes from this isn’t fair, it’s horrible, hard, stressful, I’ve been taken advantage of to I’m an overcomer. Its victim hood, survival ship to then being a role model. We’ve got to say to ourselves I need to overcome this because my kids are watching. I need to overcome this cause everyone is expecting me to freeze and run. Don’t run away from your life, your family as hard as it gets. If You rise you might inspire someone else. Who needs you on your A game today?

I wish I was good at chillin like my sister or my hubbs but I’m learning. Praying, Meditation, exercise even if exercise is only 10 minutes a day. Jaiden was with a rare form of epilepsy in 2007, diagnosed with autism in 2008, an intellectual disability in 2009, I had to drive him two hours a day to a special school in 2010-2011. I had a diagnosis of a brain tumor in 2015. Kev and I separated in 2016. But what lifted me was saying “I will pull through this, something good is going to happen and this isn’t easy, but I have a choice I will change this story.” Tell yourself a new story. I’m not the only one whose gone through a myriad of issues and problems I really do believe our stories can inspire others to change.

The role model mindset is to step into a mindset that says the way I live my life can serve as an example. Take a break, forgive and set some new standards. Anxiety, discomfort, negative feelings will subside when you shift your focus, change your environment, and listen to a positive podcast, sermon, or music. Let go of all the junk you are holding on to. Think about this: your life is crazy…in spite of the difficulties…God wants you to enjoy your life and take back command of it and find who it is you need to forgive, who? Set a new standard of behavior for yourself. In John 10:10 Jesus says, the thief comes only in order to steal, kill and destroy. I came that you may have and enjoy life.” I paraphrase. Isn’t that a blessing to read. I am a very work oriented person however after Jaidens behaviors became exacerbated I needed to step back from working full time and God showed me how to slow down. I eventually quit my job in healthcare of 15 years and began to get to work on my marriage, and my family life. In that time I was able to sit back and figure out what we all needed to have a functional family life. My faith increased, the suffering made me stronger and Jaiden had showed me how to humble myself and show grace to him. Though I was angry and anxious during his meltdowns I learned to depend on God. My character changed, Jaidens behaviors are not about me I can’t get hurt or angry when he lashes out, spits on me, screams like a banshee.

The new chapter in your life is freedom. Yes, anxiety and stress will come, but my standard was no longer will I be angry or hurt. I am not going to mistreat my son because of his behaviors. Don’t be the bad guy. You don’t mistreat your child or people for that matter. Trials will help us change. God has a purpose and a plan for you, but you have to trust God and take the high road. Be patient, this is a new chapter for you. Are you going through difficult times today? Are you overwhelmed? Rest, change up your life one step at a time.

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

HOW TO REALLY BE SUCCESSFUL WITH HOMESCHOOLING

Jaiden and his chewy tube

Whether you’re looking to have a more relaxed lifestyle in your regular home life cause let’s face it, you’re scrambling to navigate life as it’s become hard with two working parents and multiple kids or because all of a sudden you need to homeschool, there are some ways to help you be successful. This blog post will give you tips on how to really be successful with homeschooling.

First, the basics:

MENTALLY STRESSING LESS

You don’t’ have to have a PhD to homeschool. There are a ton of homeschooling mamas, dads, grandparents nowadays that have been doing it for so long they have made it very easy for us families to transition into a great homeschooling life. There are lots of blogs, YouTube pages and books available to help you get together all you need to have a less stressed homeschool year. As I said to my sister a few weeks back, you can do this it’s gonna be great!

WHAT DOES YOUR STATE REQUIRE

You don’t have to know everything about schooling your kids, but you do have to know your state laws. Facebook has great homeschooling groups and once you find one that is a reputable group sign up and kick back your feet. As I am in Ohio, I follow Ohio homeschooling parents and Christian home educators of Ohio and they have been super helpful when it comes to knowing what to do to notify the school district. It’s literally filling out a proper form, sending it ONLY to your superintendent of your local school district, and making sure it’s certified mail. That’s it’s. We here in Ohio are a notification state we don’t sign our kids up for homeschool.

PICK A CURRICULUM OR DON’T

The hardest thing for me to understand when I started homeschooling was that homeschooling is NOT AT ALL like public or private school. You can pick a curriculum or don’t. There are lots of curriculums to choose from and you can purchase them, make your own or pick a free one online like Easy Peasy All-In-One-Homeschool https://allinonehomeschool.com or Khan Academy https://www.khanacademy.org. Yes of course you should have a system in place for your kiddos, but you don’t have to drive yourself bonkers in the process. Thank heavens for the parents that have homeschooled before us!

And Now… Options to help you stress less.

BE FLEXIBLE WITH YOUR TIME & MATERIALS

I have two boys I’m homeschooling ages 9 and 14 in 4th and 8th grade with special needs. I have learned to start school early with my older one as he wakes first. His curriculum though he is in 8th grade, is still at a preschool level and we do use Easy Peasy and YouTube is our friend in the mornings too along with coffee and Jesus. Jaidens work is much easier to manage then my younger one who has lots of math, reading and writing. I use Easy Peasy, The Good And The Beautiful curriculums as well as YouTube, Netflix and field trips. When my younger one Sebastian wakes I’m finishing up with my older one and we can start working on that work for the day. Then we have a snack together and lunch together too. It all works out well.

FUN FRIDAYS

Start your homeschooling life off simple and create a schedule that works for you and your kids. I already mapped out that for this year we will work hard Monday-Thursday and have Fridays for fun learning. It might be a movie day, brunch with buds, visits to libraries, museums, zoos, Fridays are for fun learning this year.

CREATE UNIT STUDIES

Unit studies are as easy as picking a topic that you want your kids to learn, finding the relevant material for your topic such as books, videos etc…, finding free printables online and execution! You can do them for the first 9 weeks and your set for the first quarter. I chose to do a mental health unit study and an ocean unit study this year. You can do whatever your children have an interest in.

“Use wisdom and understanding to establish your home;”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭24:3‬ ‭CEV‬‬

CEV BIBLE

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

The Autism Stress Less Podcast

I started writing years ago in our first home in Lorain, Ohio. It was back in 2012 and I really didn’t know what I was going to write about. I initially thought I would write about our life marriage, parenting, autism, and working. How boring it sounds when I look at it now! However, I began to love writing and continued to write when I had the time to do so which was usually in the evening. I started reading other blogs, from parents, spiritual writers, and started listening to podcasts. It was then that I realized I could start helping people more than what I do now. I was coached, mentored, and from that and a lot of personal development I was inspired to write my first book.

I was working full-time in healthcare and trying to be a good wife and mom, but not without difficulty. I had a lot of challenges, setbacks, heartbreak, and tough times. I had a period of a few months where I was completely by myself which I believe I needed and that did help me to find out what God had planned for our family. I wrote my first book and I was so grateful to Christian Faith Publishing for helping me to do so. This leads me into podcasting.

I started podcasting in 2018 with the hopes that I would help a few parents stress less when parenting their children with autism. I soon realized that while doing so I was in the midst of stress and it was hard to continuously record podcast weekly though I was adamant I needed to do this to help parents stress less. I guess it’s because I got sick of not hearing any podcasts about parenting kids with autism that were real. So, I wanted to be a real voice that other parents could listen to and understand that they are not alone in some of the many difficulties our children face. The autism stress less podcast has been consistent for the last three years and now in its 4th season. I just want to continue to help parents to stress less, offer biblical guidance, encouragement and to be able to help them find resources when they need it. I guess my podcast is a simple podcast as sometimes it’s just me venting about the struggles we go through as a family but, it’s also about the small and sometimes huge victories too. Please support the podcast by sharing with those you believe would benefit from the encouragement and resources.

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Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

How Went From OMG I Can’t Do This To Seeing A Huge Change In 5 Months

The evening darkness suited my depressed mood. I didn’t bother turning on the lights or leaving my office. It was another day and I didn’t feel like leaving my house.

I was exhausted with parenting. Burnt out. And embarrassed. You see, 3 years earlier, I’d left a stable job, with a generous income to pursue my dream life as a homemaking wife, mom and writer.

I wrote my first published book, a guide, articles, blog posts and podcast scripts. I started singing at our local church, I cooked cleaned, washed, did taxes, and I hustled. And I learned. And grew and improved. And you know what? It worked.

My husband has been a huge supporter to me as a full-time domestic engineer, homeschooling mama, writer, podcaster, worship singer. Living the dream — except not. I felt disappointed in myself. I’d built an entire life around what many consider an ideal great life, and I no longer thought I could do it.

When You Feel You Can’t Do It

I wonder if you know the feeling too. The one where you no longer want to do the thing you always wanted to do. When you have a child with level three autism and other behavioral issues life gets super hard. It gets super hard to block out the screams, the destruction of throwing chairs, ripping shirts, spitting, kicking and the feet pounding. It gets hard when you have no one to truly help. No medication, therapy, song, snack, psychiatrist or doctor could help us when Jaiden was in crisis for almost two full months.

Maybe you don’t have a child with special needs but you studied the music for years, going all in, dreaming of a career as a performer, now you rarely listen to music or sing. Maybe you were a writer and you stopped writing. You might have built a business, or a brand from the ground up, and now the thought of it exhausts you. Your tired, frustrated and stressed. Or you created a product and generated a side hustle, but the grind has gotten you down. Whatever it is, I am here with you. It. Gets. Crappy. It also gets leveled.

It’s okay to slow down and reevaluate your priorities. It’s okay to slow down and eat right, rest right, exercise right. It’s okay to slow down and set time aside for meditation, prayer and worship. It’s okay to stop and look at the real reasons your experiencing stress. It’s okay to stop and think about your negative behaviors and how to turn away from them. It’s okay to ease up on your expectations, on your right to be right, to be heard and understood. It’s important to choose to be grateful, to commit to loving God, your family and others. It’s important to refocus and breathe.

“My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him.” (Psalm 62:1)

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

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SUPPORT GROUPS: Cultivating Close Friendships

Do you ever find yourself thinking about things that are beyond your control? It’s amazing how stress can make your whole world spin out of control. There was a time where I didn’t want to talk to anybody, be around anybody, or go to church. I did not do well with the stress and anxiety I was going through because I kept trying to control everything that was going on in my sons life.

I have three sons, and the son that I’m talking about is the one that has severe special needs. It was a struggle and every day instead of trusting God to get me through I tried to do it in my own strength. In Colossians 1:11 it says “We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need.”

I seriously was at a point where I needed support. Instead of looking for it in the right places, I thought I could do life all on my own. If you’re in that place I encourage you to find a support group that gets you through the hard times to help you get through those super difficult moments. Even if it’s a Facebook group that understands what you’re going through a support group or you can begin to connect with other people and understand what you’re going through. In Ephesians 3:16-20 it says, “I pray that from his glorious unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength of spirit. In Christ, you will make it home and your hearts as you trust him.Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, it’s all gods people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. When you experience the love of Christ, you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. Now all the glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.”

Caring for my son Jaiden has been a blessing and has also been consuming leaving me exhausted at times. Joining support groups online has helped me to find information that is relevant for helping Jaiden and also making it a point to take care of my mental health and connect with my friends that truly care. I also absolutely encourage people to seek out coaching or counseling if you feel you need intense goal oriented support.

I hope that all of the overwhelming emotions you are feeling subside and you have peace and also that the Scriptures I have referenced here speak to your circumstances. I hope and I pray that you find the right support to help you through the things that you need to get you through all the difficulties you’re facing and begin to establish support so you can have the right kind of relationships on your journey.

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family Amazon author page

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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When Your Teen With Autism Gets Aggressive

Here I go again, I feel like I come on here from time to time and talk to you all about how to deal with your child who has autism and aggression. I’ve noticed a trend myself on posts where I discuss autism aggression and meltdowns and I wish I could tell you that it gets better. The truth is, it gets much harder especially when your child becomes a teenager. They get taller, they weigh more, they eat more, and they are much stronger. 

I wish I could tell you that I have a few tips to help you with aggression and violence, but I truly don’t have many tips to give. I can however, give you my experience and words and just tell you that you definitely have to put on love more than anything as well as be physically fit, mentally fit, and emotionally fit. You guys, it is really hard.  Do your best and rest up when you need to and God will give you peace that surpasses all understanding when you need it most for sure.

“Look deep into my heart, God, and find out everything I am thinking. Don’t let me follow evil ways, but lead me in the way that time has proven true.” Psalms‬ ‭139:23-24‬

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In The Works

UPCOMING BOOK! The debut of Peace Through Pain coming soon December 2021!! Some of the things that I cover are how to survive stress when parenting a child with autism, moving through the pain and struggles, how to help your marriage thrive along with helpful scriptures and resources. 

Each month starting in January of 2021, I would like to treat my readers extra special and send one person a sweet gift. Shhh…It’s a surprise. I am sure you will like it and it could be a book, or just about anything. Want to enter? Just leave a comment below.

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5 things I confirmed in 2020

The 5 things I confirmed in 2020:

1. The most important things aren’t things.

At the beginning of this year, I wanted to enter 2020 looking my best, feeling my best and having the best with a servant leadership attitude. I was ready to change, serve, ready to remain open and kind, ready to be the best to help others be their best. For some people, it is just New Year’s resolutions. For others, a mindset kept on God, Faith, Health and Family kept them humble, compassionate, centered, and strong through a tough year of a pandemic, parenting, politics and homeschooling. How did you handle what’s most important in front of you? Did you spend less and honor your family by loving them, giving them your time? Did you hope for the best? Find a new workout?

I see you, I recognize you. You showed me what’s possible.

2. Confidence Is Crucial.

Confidence is the belief in one’s ability to figure things out. Set the reality and progress of your year by believing you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! Set your mind on the good things and see yourself having a more peaceful home life, better health, better relationships and a family that has a bond that can’t be broken.

3. Being in a Community is Needed.

Being in community with friends from our church REALLY MATTERED this year. Make friendship a priority through out your life. Outside of my Hubbs and the health of my family, one of the things I’m thankful for this year is my friendships that kept me feeling like I wasn’t going crazy and that all would be ok. Love you peeps.

4. Creating Good Habits Does Matter.

Praying, exercising, drinking water, flossing, taking vitamins, writing, reading, worshiping and scheduling in my planners made my days matter more.

5. Investing in Personal Development Is A Must.

I learned to be more alive, connected and fulfilled in my walk with God and my family. I worked super hard at reading and researching multiple books, articles and websites to gain more enrichment. I listened to tons of sermons, podcasts and livecasts. It was a tough year. Did you try to balance your life by taking in good material? Whether it was by reading or listening to some great podcasts?

These things I learned and re-visited this year, and it was most definitely needed and well worth it.

I hope these 5 help. I’ll share more on The Autism Stress Less Podcast Podcast this week – probably a Friday or Saturday episode. I’m not done yet this week, and I’ve got some big announcements coming soon.

I’m grateful for you. Sending you and your family warm blessings for a peaceful New Year.

With love, your biblical counselor,

Maritza

“I asked the lord for help, and he saved me from all my fears.” Psalm 34:4 CEV

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family Amazon author page

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If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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