Talking About Not Talking About It

When things get heavy on your heart who do you talk to? I am talking about not talking about your feelings. It’s hard when you have a child with severe special needs and they are also nonverbal to just talk to anybody about what you’re going through as well as what your child is going through and how you can barely help them any longer. I went to school for psychology, and for biblical counseling. I learned so many different ways and methods to cope when suffering is present. Lately, I have lost all my coping skills. I myself have been to therapy, and I have found that there are only so many therapists that truly listen. When I counsel/coach people I’m reminded to listen more than to give advice. After all, God gave us two ears and one mouth.

Right now I’m outside on the patio in the backyard watching Jaiden swing on his platform swing and I’m looking all around our beautiful backyard and I see the beautiful green trees and how the leaves are starting to change colors. I’m reminded of how things change so quickly. I remember at one time Jaiden was hard so hard to handle I was learning his behaviors, and back then it wasn’t too bad. I remember he was so tiny and he would pace back-and-forth and he also had vocalizations and mild screaming as he was younger and smaller. His smile would light up the room his singing was squeaky, but so cute. Nowadays, Jaiden is a 14-year-old in a man’s body with the brain of a three-year-old. He has problems with emotion regulation and screams like a banshee over 100 times a day. There truly is nothing you can do about it no one really can do anything about it and I know there are some parents out there that understand what we go through as a family as they to have a child that may scream even more than 100 times a day. (Forgive me for the run on sentences.) Heck, some of you may have two and three children that scream on a daily basis. According to Stephen a d Debra Wallace Advocates for Choice
Parents and Allies of Remarkable Texans
who recently has an article published in The National Council On Autism, “ Those on the severe end of the spectrum who demonstrate aggressive or self injurious tendencies continue to grow in numbers…. The simple fact is, thousands upon thousands of families will shortly be confronted by the need for more intensive care and treatment for their loved ones with autism. ”

I just got tired of talking about not really talking about the maladaptive behaviors that Jaiden experiences and all the things that go on in our household. I really feel like I need to talk about it as things have become so much more exacerbated and life has become increasingly difficult.

I homeschool Jaiden and his younger brother Sebastian and I knew it would be difficult some days, however last year was so much better. We Just begun this year so I am giving it some time before making some changes to the new school routine. I don’t want to give up just yet as I feel like I haven’t exhausted all of my resources. I knew that being a homeschooling mom I would be able to teach the boys how to be morally correct, how to respect, how to be helpful, and a whole bunch of other things that nowadays they’re not teaching in our regular schools. I don’t want to give up just yet. Jaiden has a slew of maladaptive behaviors as I’ve mentioned previously and I still feel like there’s hope that he may get the help that he needs in someway shape or form. I’m praying that there’s a solution to even help him just a little so that we are family life is not as chaotic.

Today I am a wife and mom who just needed to vent about everything that I have been going through. So that’s why I’m talking about not talking about it. I never really talked about how my heart aches for Jaiden daily, how I cry daily, and how I most days don’t know what to do with him. The one thing that I do know is that I love him with my whole heart and I will continue to try to be the best wife and mother I can be for all three of my boys. If you’re tired, a caregiver, A mother or a father taking care of special needs child I pray that you have the peace that you need and that your child is well and if you don’t have peace, and your child isn’t well… I’m with you. Really all I needed was for someone just to listen to me so thank you so much for reading and listening. I hope I can be there to listen to some of you too. Tomorrow is a new day and things will be different, for that I am grateful.

Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!!

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

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Don’t Run Away

A couple of years ago I said to my husband Kevin “Let’s not wait to move to where we want to live. Let’s create our life now.” I believe that we shouldn’t wait to move cause we’re afraid, or wait to workout cause we’re busy. Don’t wait till your perfect to take action toward things that matter the most we’ve got to go from victim role to the role model role.

The ultimate comeback story goes from this isn’t fair, it’s horrible, hard, stressful, I’ve been taken advantage of to I’m an overcomer. Its victim hood, survival ship to then being a role model. We’ve got to say to ourselves I need to overcome this because my kids are watching. I need to overcome this cause everyone is expecting me to freeze and run. Don’t run away from your life, your family as hard as it gets. If You rise you might inspire someone else. Who needs you on your A game today?

I wish I was good at chillin like my sister or my hubbs but I’m learning. Praying, Meditation, exercise even if exercise is only 10 minutes a day. Jaiden was with a rare form of epilepsy in 2007, diagnosed with autism in 2008, an intellectual disability in 2009, I had to drive him two hours a day to a special school in 2010-2011. I had a diagnosis of a brain tumor in 2015. Kev and I separated in 2016. But what lifted me was saying “I will pull through this, something good is going to happen and this isn’t easy, but I have a choice I will change this story.” Tell yourself a new story. I’m not the only one whose gone through a myriad of issues and problems I really do believe our stories can inspire others to change.

The role model mindset is to step into a mindset that says the way I live my life can serve as an example. Take a break, forgive and set some new standards. Anxiety, discomfort, negative feelings will subside when you shift your focus, change your environment, and listen to a positive podcast, sermon, or music. Let go of all the junk you are holding on to. Think about this: your life is crazy…in spite of the difficulties…God wants you to enjoy your life and take back command of it and find who it is you need to forgive, who? Set a new standard of behavior for yourself. In John 10:10 Jesus says, the thief comes only in order to steal, kill and destroy. I came that you may have and enjoy life.” I paraphrase. Isn’t that a blessing to read. I am a very work oriented person however after Jaidens behaviors became exacerbated I needed to step back from working full time and God showed me how to slow down. I eventually quit my job in healthcare of 15 years and began to get to work on my marriage, and my family life. In that time I was able to sit back and figure out what we all needed to have a functional family life. My faith increased, the suffering made me stronger and Jaiden had showed me how to humble myself and show grace to him. Though I was angry and anxious during his meltdowns I learned to depend on God. My character changed, Jaidens behaviors are not about me I can’t get hurt or angry when he lashes out, spits on me, screams like a banshee.

The new chapter in your life is freedom. Yes, anxiety and stress will come, but my standard was no longer will I be angry or hurt. I am not going to mistreat my son because of his behaviors. Don’t be the bad guy. You don’t mistreat your child or people for that matter. Trials will help us change. God has a purpose and a plan for you, but you have to trust God and take the high road. Be patient, this is a new chapter for you. Are you going through difficult times today? Are you overwhelmed? Rest, change up your life one step at a time.

Listening to: Brandon Lake Gratitude

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

When Your Teen With Autism Gets Aggressive

Here I go again, I feel like I come on here from time to time and talk to you all about how to deal with your child who has autism and aggression. I’ve noticed a trend myself on posts where I discuss autism aggression and meltdowns and I wish I could tell you that it gets better. The truth is, it gets much harder especially when your child becomes a teenager. They get taller, they weigh more, they eat more, and they are much stronger. 

I wish I could tell you that I have a few tips to help you with aggression and violence, but I truly don’t have many tips to give. I can however, give you my experience and words and just tell you that you definitely have to put on love more than anything as well as be physically fit, mentally fit, and emotionally fit. You guys, it is really hard.  Do your best and rest up when you need to and God will give you peace that surpasses all understanding when you need it most for sure.

“Look deep into my heart, God, and find out everything I am thinking. Don’t let me follow evil ways, but lead me in the way that time has proven true.” Psalms‬ ‭139:23-24‬

Listening to: Andrew Ripp Jericho

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Get Maritza’s Books Autism in Our Home and The Autism Stress Less Guide on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is a small booklet and out on Amazon now!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

Autism Stress Less Guide Booklet: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NTZ4XW9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_m18TFb7282ZSV

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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3 Things To Help You When Parenting With Depression

I don’t know about you, but I am a person who has struggled with depression since my early teens. I had a sort of situational depression because my father passed away when I was 12 years old. Soon after, my grandfather passed, my younger cousin at the age of four and then the unexpected death of my brother in law at age 28. We have had a lot to grieve over in our family. I am sure many of you are going through depression, PTSD, anxiety as well as having to take care of your child with autism through it all. I want to specifically talk about depression as this is the season where depression kicks in and becomes heavy for a lot of us due to the holiday season and the hustle and bustle of life. Even with COVID-19 there is still a lot of hustle and bustle we will all be going through these next few months. There are days I don’t wanna get outta bed and I wanted to give you a few tips to help you through depression and they are:

1. Get the right support system

If you have to find a therapist to help you talk though all you are facing please do it now! You will be less stressed and so will your kids. There are also pastors, counselors and free online help too. If you need more than talk therapy please call your doctor.

2. Try to be as active as possible

When you get out of bed thank God for all you have grab some tea or coffee and try to be active. I do have to push myself to workout daily and I literally do 10-20 minutes a day and afterward I feel so much better. Like I said, I seriously have to push myself to do this, but it’s worth doing.

3. Get some rest

I know you guys are tired and going through some unimaginable things right now. There have been times where I’ve had to take a time out and told Kev I need a time out. That happens like one to two times a year. If you are really overwhelmed let your spouse know if you have a spouse or a family member that you need one day to rest. It’s so important to take care of yourself so you can be the best you can for your family.

For more on this topic listen to the latest podcast!

“God cares for you, so turn all your worries over to him.” ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭5:7‬ ‭CEV‬‬

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Latest podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/Three-Things-To-Help-You-When-Parenting-Through-Depression-ekp38b

Staying Positive During Sick Days

So how do you stay positive when you’re not feeling very good and every symptom that appears to be allergy like or cold like you think and others think you may now have COVID-19! Jaiden has been sick for most of the week with what we now know is a sinus infection. I then got it then my oldest etc… you all know the pain, pressure, bloody nasal drainage and fatigue cause you can’t breathe.

It’s hard to be sick when you have a family to take care of. It’s hard to be positive when you have a sick child with severe special needs. He screamed, spat, punched walls, and also slammed doors a lot this week, and I knew he was sick so I tried to give him his space. I made a great meal with chicken thighs and veggies for the whole family on Wednesday. I knew Jaiden was getting better as he was smiling more and happier overall.

I went to cleanup dining room and then went to the bathroom thinking I could leave the pan on the stove with the rest of the food which was for Kevin my husband. I went to the kitchen and I saw just veggies and shreds of chicken leftover! I was like “Nooo!” He laughed so hard and I was just like oh well Kev will have a nice vegetarian meal today. Then later that night, I got sick so I really was exhausted.

Jaiden left Kevin veggies for dinner☺️

Sometimes our kids are so hard to handle. Jaiden being a teen with all sorts of medical issues has times where he is a ton to handle. He was better I was not and then my oldest came out of his room later the next day to tell me he was sick too. We all were getting sick and Jaiden was bouncing off the walls. Kevin was not his usual self this week due to an unfortunate event that happened so we’re all out of sorts.

Jaiden demands attention from all of us and he will behave negatively as well to get ANY attention. I told him “Break Time!” on our kitchen floor after I found he ate all the gas x, pepto and drank half bottle of dimetapp thankfully it’s the tiny bottle. I was relieved that it wasn’t something worse as I hide meds and vitamins very well, but because I have been not feeling well I literally have let them all do whatever they want. Terrible I know. I might have left a few meds out which yep it was those and he ate and drank them up. He has Pica so he will eat and drink pretty much anything. You can’t be sick when you have a Jaiden it’s true. I was though, and grateful for my Hubbs buying me some vitamins, 7-up, cough drops, and NyQuil and also for a great friend that came to bring me soup to get me better. Love these peeps!

Just a push from them both helped me to be more positive. Now I am getting better just like Jaiden and so is my other son. One day at a time you guys! Praying I can help push you to be a better person too when you are not feeling so great. Blessings!

Jaiden having a break on kitchen floor

“Act like people with good sense and not like fools.” Ephesians 5:15 CEV

Latest Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/Staying-Positive-During-Sick-Days-eib06j

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Read This If You Are So Stressed Out

Somethings are difficult for me to write about and talk about, but I would like to talk about a specific topic that I have dealt with recently in order to help others understand the challenges that severe special needs an autism can present with. Many of you know I have three boys my middle son Jaiden is 13 years old with level 3 autism, epilepsy, Pica and intellectual disability. He is a loving, Most days, however, there is always the unpredictability.

Not very many people will understand when your child that you love and care for how they can without any notice turn you life upside down. A few weeks ago, I was at home sitting on the couch and Jaiden was upstairs in his bedroom playing and I thought he was playing, I heard him screaming which he tends to do on and off throughout the day. This time however the screaming was way more intense. I went upstairs to see what was going on and I looked at Jaiden and said “Jaiden what’s wrong!? What happened?!” It seemed that he wanted to tell me something so I stood across from. The look in his eyes did not look like the sweet look he normally had. That’s when he slapped me hard across the face. I stepped backed shocked, hurt and confused. Kevin came running in to see what happed and I am so thankful he heard and saw my needing help at that moment.

Those who do know me know that I am a mama bear through and through I love fiercely and I also make sure my household is ran smoothly as can be. I just prayed to God to give me a few seconds to regain my composure as I was so distraught. About 15 minutes afterward, as Jaiden and I both looked like we had been in battle, (we had been) I was able to go to him and talk with him and cry with him. 

I had been choked, throat chopped, pinned, kicked and spat at in the behavioral health unit I worked in years ago by patients with intellectual disabilities and autism, and it certainly has left a lasting impression on me… but I have learned to do things differently with Jaiden or so I thought maybe the safety techniques I learned I would remember for sure, but when it’s your child, in your own home, there is no prevention it isn’t foolproof. It’s very very hard. I get emotional writing and taking about it.

I am always on edge, expecting Jaiden to snap at any time. Even a “good day” is not guaranteed. I love him with all my heart, it’s so hard. Even with the five medications he has daily…even with my husband, my oldest and youngest sons sacrificing their leisure time to make me feel safe in my own home. There’s always a sense of doom and gloom and a sense of failure…Some days I feel that I failed as his mom. Especially those tough moments as described above.

My son is comic relief to all of us. He has the most electrifying smile, and has the most innocent interactions. He still loves cuddles, water, Veggie Tales, and something as simple as “tickles.”

When he snaps it’s not who Jaiden is. No one can ease his fears and loss of self control. It’s the scariest and saddest thing to see my son lose control of himself, and not be able to help him. 

I know Jaiden knows how much I love him. I always pray that his medications will stop these outbursts, but I also know that is slim to not happening anytime soon. I hope that with enough understanding research and awareness, kids like Jaiden will be able to get the help they need.

My heart goes out to you parents that’s are suffering and stressed out. All of us dealing with children we love who unfortunately suffer with severe autism know stories like mine or far worse through personal experience or from our friends who share our situation.

And like many of you, I can’t help but think I contribute to his outbursts because I hadn’t sincerely got it right during the day.

How many of you know what it’s like to take it a few minutes at a time. No, not a day at a time a few minutes at a time. THAT MOMENT, when Jaiden hit me so hard. I have a husband and a great support system thankfully, but it’s hasn’t always been that way. So who do you call for help? The psychiatrist, a family member, or a trusted friend? A few minutes at a time. Be grateful for the good moments.

Inside I was screaming when it happened and I might have made matters worse. We need to teach our kids that physical violence is not acceptable. You can be firm, growl if need be, give them their medication and send them to their room. I was lucky Jaiden was already in his room, But as I explained my story above you’re haunted by these incidents. We’re living with a level of stress that most people can’t imagine.

“He gives strength to the weary, And to him who has no might He increases power.” Isaiah‬ ‭40:29‬ ‭AMP‬‬

Today on the podcast:https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/Listen-To-This-If-You-Are-Stressed-Out-ef0eb3

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book Confident Autism Parenting will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

3 Steps to More CONFIDENCE

When you have confidence you are capable of doing so many things. You will get things done because you have consistently done them over and over and over again. I have three boys one with special needs and autism and at times it can be very hard to have confidence. It has taken me years to train my brain to do the right things.
Having confidence just doesn’t happen overnight. If you do all that you can do and trust that God will help you, he will do those things you can’t. Here are 3 steps to more confidence:
1. Ask for spiritual/professional help when you need. In the Bible, it talks about how we should acknowledge God in all our ways and he will direct our steps that’s in Proverbs 3:6. Talk to God, tell him you need help, peace, direction whatever it is. If you don’t believe in God, start! I always say you have to believe. I don’t know how you could not believe in God when we all have such rough moments here on this earth. If you don’t believe, seek out a professional counselor or therapist that can help give you ways to cope through and be there to listen.
2. Create goals for your personal, family, and spiritual life. You must be willing to do your part in your life.
3. Declutter your living spaces and work spaces. That may seem outrageous to some of you. I know some of you love to hold onto all of your things, however when you start decluttering your life, your mind will also start to feel less cluttered.
Check out our latest Podcast for more information on how to stress less! 

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

‭‭John‬ ‭16:33‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/3-Steps-to-More-CONFIDENCE-eai93t

Listening to: How Great is Our God-Hillsong

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book Confident Autism Parenting will be out soon!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Strategies To Cope for Isolation and Loneliness

Some of the things I wish I would’ve done early on when I struggled with isolation and loneliness was:

    Be more active in church
    Join a support group and to
    Stay connected to people who are a positive influence.

We as a family took each day as it came. However, it was very difficult to go out to parties, family gatherings and church with Jaiden as he would scream high pitch screams when upset and would have other behaviors that were maladaptive. I started blogging in 2012 and then podcasting in 2018 which helped me to connect to others online, but the people that came through for us was our church family.

Kev and I decided to change the way we were living in small increments and eventually we made a commitment to go to church on Sunday’s and to be involved as much as we could. We talked to our pastors about the needs of our family and they were open and loving. I pray that you are not lonely and in isolation. I want you to try to find a place of peace and comfort for you and your family to be free and to be able stress less when parenting your child with autism.

To hear more about tips for isolation and loneliness please listen to our current podcast!

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” Isaiah‬ ‭43:2‬ NIV

Current Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/When-you-Feel-Lonely-Strategies-to-Help-you-Get-Connected-ea09cr

Listening to: I Will Rise -Acoustic

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. The New book The Confident Autism Parent will be out soon in February 2020!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Decide, Act, and Live: My Crisis Plan

Hi everyone! Hope you are having a good start to the week. My story is I am a wife and mama of three boys one with a rare form of epilepsy, an intellectual disability, level 3 autism and Pica. Throughout the years we have found ourselves as a family to be in a few moments of crisis. I had to come up with a plan for crisis as there were so many things that would happen on and off with my son Jaiden. You might currently be in a crisis where an unexpected death occurred or a family member might be in the hospital. Today, you might find yourself facing the fact that you are now a full-time caregiver when you didn’t plan for that.

The plan I put in place for our family is very simple and I wanted to share it with you all so that way you guys could put it into your life plan. Here are three ways to help you with your crisis.

  1. Decide to accept your crisis
  2. Act by surrounding yourself with people that love you and are going to help you
  3. Live your life, but plan and prepare for the next crisis as best as you can

To go deeper into detail on the ways to help you with your crisis, please check out our latest podcast! Have a great rest of your week!

‬‬ 1 Peter‬ ‭4:12-13‬ ‭MSG‬‬ “Friends, when life gets really difficult, don’t jump to the conclusion that God isn’t on the job. Instead, be glad that you are in the very thick of what Christ experienced. This is a spiritual refining process, with glory just around the corner.”

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/Decide–Act–and-Live-Better-My-Crisis-Plan-e9eaic

Listening to: Chris Burns “Jealous”

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. The New booklet The Confident Autism Parent will be out soon in January 2020!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

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If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Parental Anxiety and Medical Visits

Sometimes you will have anxieties when taking your children with autism to medical visits. It’s a whole new world for you when your child is newly diagnosed with autism and you all of a sudden have to take them to numerous appointments and therapies that you didn’t have to take them to before. When you have to establish a medical team for your child explain to your medical team what your child needs to help them with their daily needs.

Medical professionals are here to help you and your child. Anxiety is real, it will happen to you when you don’t sleep and when there is unexpected events. You will have rapid heartbeats, a constant feeling of uneasiness and may have panic. However, as time goes on and you make it a point to change your negative thought patterns you will be with more peace. It will get better the more you take your child to their appointments. Take heart and know that the mind can be a terrible place or it can be a peaceful place.

On today’s podcast, we will talk about how to help you change your mindset and share a little bit about our experience with Jaiden at his medical visits.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him and he will direct your paths.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/Kevin-and-Maritza-Talk-Medical-visits-e5nsoc

Listening to: Lady Gaga – I’ll Never Love Again

Get Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources.

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

Also Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw