Teen Meltdowns and Helping Your Child Through it

For those of you who have or have had teens with autism you all know how hard meltdowns can be. It can be so very hard to watch your child struggle with self regulation as well as hard on you stress wise. There have been some weeks that have been awesome and there’s also been weeks that I label hell weeks. I’m sorry for those of you who don’t like to hear that, but it’s true I have had hell weeks and I know that some of you reading this have also had the same so that’s why I choose to describe it in that way because there is no other way to describe it.

 What I’ve learned from having a child with autism and other disabilities is that you need to have superhuman strength. I believe that fully relying on God is the only thing that will get you through the struggles that you face. When I say fully relying on God I don’t mean just waking up in the morning and praying. It is a heart change, a mind change and a life change. I literally have gone through years of reading, researching, and schooling to try to understand all about what my son is facing. I have also gone through years of reading, researching, and schooling to try to understand what I am facing mentally, spiritually, and psychologically. I will be the first to tell you that I still am learning. I love learning and I love the process of trying to understand how to make myself better so that intern I could have a peaceful family life. I also love learning and love the process of trying to understand different tools to help you to have a peaceful family life.

A few things to help when your teen has a meltdown are:

1. Make sure they are safe and everyone else is safe by scanning the room for dangerous objects that can be thrown etc…once everyone involved is safe walk away and give them space to scream and let go.
2. Ask if they are in pain, have hurts anywhere to see if they may have a medical issue like headaches, stomachaches etc… if so give appropriate medication to help.
3. If they are ok and starting to calm down put on some music and dance with them. Tell them that music is fun and show them how to wind down by either hanging out with them listening to music or dance with them.
4. Have a picnic snack on the living room floor. Snacks always brighten my day and it works too for Jaiden.

These are just a few real life things I do with Jaiden. There are tons of things you can do to help your teen too. You have to find out what’s best for them when they meltdown. It is not a tantrum, but a cry for help that they can’t communicate to you.

I hope you guys have teenagers with autism are doing well and when your child has a meltdown I pray that God give you the strength that you need to love the heck out of your child. Have a safe and happy Halloween 🎃 .

“Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:7‬ ‭CEV‬‬

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The FREE Autism Stress Less Guide

Hi Everyone! Happy October and it’s almost over. I wanted to post the FREE PDF of The Autism Stress Less Guide I created to help parents to stress less when parenting their child with autism. If this works for you great! If not, please pass it on to someone whom you think would benefit from it. Thank you and praying you are all stressing less this month!

“A Heart At Peace Gives Life To The Body.” Proverbs 14:30

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Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! Autism in Our Home: The Making of a Bittersweet Family https://www.amazon.com/dp/1642993409/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_D2BLFbQJ0F8CK

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

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How to swim upstream against the floods of life

Some of us parents are struggling to keep up with all that’s going on in our households when parenting our children with autism. How can you be the one to swim upstream against the floods that take place in your life? How can you do it without being worn out? Over the years, I have become frustrated and I have felt that I have not done a good job of serving my family effectively. You may feel the same way too.

In order for you to serve your family and make changes for the better you have to have a clear focus, a great deal of energy, a sense of humor and people who are in your corner through the good and bad. A lot of things that happen in life can be disappointing. However, this is your family, this is your child. Do not quit and never lose heart. 

I probably sound repetitive to you all because I frequently will say, don’t quit, be grateful, love your child. These things that I say often are what I believe the things that can help you to change your life for the better. Let’s just take this time to remind ourselves to bring joy to our families as best as we can and to:

  1. Be grateful and thankful
  2. Delegate tasks as needed and to
  3. Rest

For more please listen to the latest podcast!!

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

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3 Things To Help You When Parenting With Depression

I don’t know about you, but I am a person who has struggled with depression since my early teens. I had a sort of situational depression because my father passed away when I was 12 years old. Soon after, my grandfather passed, my younger cousin at the age of four and then the unexpected death of my brother in law at age 28. We have had a lot to grieve over in our family. I am sure many of you are going through depression, PTSD, anxiety as well as having to take care of your child with autism through it all. I want to specifically talk about depression as this is the season where depression kicks in and becomes heavy for a lot of us due to the holiday season and the hustle and bustle of life. Even with COVID-19 there is still a lot of hustle and bustle we will all be going through these next few months. There are days I don’t wanna get outta bed and I wanted to give you a few tips to help you through depression and they are:

1. Get the right support system

If you have to find a therapist to help you talk though all you are facing please do it now! You will be less stressed and so will your kids. There are also pastors, counselors and free online help too. If you need more than talk therapy please call your doctor.

2. Try to be as active as possible

When you get out of bed thank God for all you have grab some tea or coffee and try to be active. I do have to push myself to workout daily and I literally do 10-20 minutes a day and afterward I feel so much better. Like I said, I seriously have to push myself to do this, but it’s worth doing.

3. Get some rest

I know you guys are tired and going through some unimaginable things right now. There have been times where I’ve had to take a time out and told Kev I need a time out. That happens like one to two times a year. If you are really overwhelmed let your spouse know if you have a spouse or a family member that you need one day to rest. It’s so important to take care of yourself so you can be the best you can for your family.

For more on this topic listen to the latest podcast!

“God cares for you, so turn all your worries over to him.” ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭5:7‬ ‭CEV‬‬

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

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Strategies2Cope: Stress And Homeschooling

For many families that have children with autism, it can be great to have them days where you have peace and order, but the next day might be completely off for both you and your child. The days of our kiddos going to a physical school has changed a ton for this year anyway, and a lot of our families are homeschooling.

In the spring, I had thoughts of “I can do this if it’s a forever kinda thing.” “Not sure I can do this successfully if I have to teach both kids!” “I have a schedule down pat for both kids and it’s going pretty well.” I had a college student studying from home with frustrations of his own, was virtually homeschooling both kids, one a second grader, and the other a teen with severe special needs and I found a system that worked for us all. It did take some time to establish a good routine. Then summer came and we tried to enjoy what we could and then the new school year started. Kevin and I decided that it would be best to send them off to school physically if they were able to, but I didn’t know if thats what I wanted to do.

I prayed about it, I researched a ton of homeschooling mamas that had been traditionally homeschooling for years and I decided to make the decision to homeschool my youngest. I wanted to homeschool both, however I thought, let’s do this one child at a time. I know it seems weird, but my thought was Jaiden LOVES his peeps at school and if they decide to close down after October then I will be more prepared to school both my kids again. I am glad we did decide to do so because Sebastian and I are now establishing a good rhythm to our eclectic style of homeschooling which I know if Jaiden is to be homeschooled too then we will have an easy transition for him. I am trying my best to create a good system for our non homeschooling life and homeschooling life. Jaiden does LOVE his friends at school and by friends I mean the therapists. He is one to one which also is a super plus for him. I absolutely love that they can now give him that kind of attention.

Is this a new normal for us? I think yes and I know it comes with a lot of responsibilities and patience. We only have our children for a few years! Then it’s off to wherever they want to go when they become little adults. After a few years of teaching Jaiden and helping him it’s either he stays with us or we help him to transition to a shared living facility or residential facility. I think about so many things now that he is approaching 14 years of age. There are a lot of things to do before our kids turn 18. Right now, we are creating strategies to cope through our journey and survival strategies like letting them watch tv a little more, letting them play games a little more when done with homework, more trips to the park, walks outside, we’ve installed an indoor swing in the basement, and thanks to our dear friends we have a mini indoor trampoline now.

The new normal requires practical strategies—practical tweaks to your routine and mindset that will help you and the kids have a smooth school year.

Here are some solutions you can try to help you get there:

1. Try to Avoid Burnout

Even if you believe you only have 15 minutes to engage your child with an activity or academic lesson do that and don’t worry about them not learning because they are. Set timers if you need to so that it can help with transitioning to the next activity. I love using easy peasy, duolingo app for spanish lessons and brainquest for homeschooling Sebastian, but for Jaiden when he is home doing school week I use youtube kids for book reading, veggie tales bible videos and go-noodle indoor recess videos. To avoid burnout, I do these things and while they are busy, we cowork in my office or dining room.

It’s basically a different way of being with your kids, but it still is meaningful work! Try not to overwhelm yourself and take things chunk by chunk.

2. Stick To Having Break Time

Set aside breaks for your kids. Treat them like a meeting. I say out loud “Break Time!” and I stick to them. When school starts at 9 am break time will be like 10:30am. I then have them grab a snack and watch a cartoon of their choice for a few minutes. I will read, drink coffee and write. The goal here is to be able to think some positive thoughts, relax and breathe. This the most important career in your life right now being with your kids. Having breaks will help you to love your life and to have a moment to chill.

3. Create Separate Spaces To Work With Your Kids

My youngest get excited about working alongside me, but also when I give him a little freedom too. To make the school day effective we will cowork, break then Sebastian will do math work upstairs and he will instant message me if he needs help. It’s a great solution for peace during the school day.

For more on stressing less and homeschooling listen to the latest podcast!!

“Write these laws on the door frames of your homes and on your town gates.” Deuteronomy‬ ‭6:9‬ ‭

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If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

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When overwhelmed with emotions, pray, pray and pray.

When I am overwhelmed with emotions my first inclination was not always to pray, pray and pray. I used to get so overwhelmed when my son Jaiden would scream like a banshee, spit, kick, hit and throw things. He has level 3 autism, epilepsy and an intellectual disability and some days are much harder than others. I used to be obnoxious, I used to cry, scream and throw fits myself. As time has gone on, I have become much better, but only because of time in prayer, time with God, time changing my attitude towards myself and family. I remember talking with my husband Kevin about how life was just so unbearable and he said, “This is insanity Maritza, you have to change something or it will always be how it is.” He was right about the insanity part. I was truly driving myself mad. I have always struggled with depression, anxiety and anger issues that have stemmed from my own childhood going through various things. Now, I have three boys and one with severe behavioral issues. I said to myself that day, “YOU’VE GOTS TO GET IT TOGETHER GIRL!”

It has taken me sometime to get it together, however I am a work in progress like most of you are. When I am overwhelmed I now, talk to God, breathe, walk away if able to, watch something funny, drink some water, juice, lie down, listen to classical music on pandora as sometimes just music is all we need with no words as that at times too can be overwhelming. Pray. Pray. Pray. It really can be hard for some to understand exactly what that is. You don’t have to do anything extravagant when you pray. All you have to do is find a place, anywhere and talk to God about your hurts, what you are struggling with, thank him for all you have and praise him. No wonder so many parents leave their families and children behind. They are discouraged, overwhelmed with intense emotions and feel there is no way out. Notice I said “feel”. Let’s try to take emotion out of our decision making though it is dang hard at times to do so, try it and pray.

The difference between effective marriages and effective parenting is prayer. I’ve noticed that powerful marriages and powerful parents value the power of prayer. If you wish to parent your child with autism well, you must pray well. I will give you a few suggestions to help with your prayer life:

Choose a place to have prayer. A car, bathroom, outdoors anywhere you can breathe will do.

Remind yourself of why you want to be a better parent, spouse, friend, minister and really appreciate the power of prayer

Determine times you will pray. I pray in the morning when I wake with some coffee, I also pray in the afternoon when my son is eating lunch. I have learned to pray throughout my days too. This has come with lots of practice talking with God and making it a habit, again like breathing.

Prayer should be your first priority when the going gets tough. Make prayer your first priority and make time to pray. If you want more on prayer listen to the latest podcast!!

“I want everyone everywhere to lift innocent hands toward heaven and pray, without being angry or arguing with each other.” 1 Timothy‬ ‭2:8‬ ‭CEV‬‬

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If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

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Healthy Parents Do These Things!

What are some of the things that parents who have healthy minds, healthy bodies and healthy spirits do? I’ve taken some time to observe some marriages and parents who have children with autism and I have come to the conclusion that the healthiest parents do these things and they are:

  1. Learn to listen to each other, love each other and like each other. Happy couples hang out together and of course there is downtime where you don’t, but the happiest couples spend quality time together doing fun things, listening to the stories of their days, and love by doing things to help one another.
  2. Eat Meals together even if it’s one meal a a week just pencil it in and make it happen
  3. Share responsibility if I forget something at the store Kev will immediately go get it and vice versa. I am mostly in charge of the household duties, however if I ask Kev he always helps, I also reciprocate by helping assist him when he needs it with work.
  4. Laugh watch comedies, look up funny memes on Pinterest and just laugh it helps with so many things
  5. Pray healthy couples pray with one another, for each other and also for others too. Pray like it’s all you know how to do!

To listen to more on this topic checkout the latest podcast!

“You obeyed the truth, and your souls were made pure. Now you sincerely love each other. But you must keep on loving with all your heart.” 1 Peter‬ ‭1:22‬ ‭CEV‬

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Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

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The Real: When People Don’t Support You

I am a wife and mom of three boys my middle son is with epilepsy, level III autism, and an intellectual disability. There have been times when people around us such as family, friends, and people that we don’t even know have not supported us concerning Jaiden and his behaviors. This can be downright hard, exhausting, and gives me some anxiety. I already have anxiety to the point where I can’t sleep at night because we have some turbulent times where Jaiden is not doing well and it carries on with me well into the night. 

For Jaiden, spitting, kicking, fighting, screaming, and other maladaptive behaviors are real. His meltdowns have become more frequent because he is going through puberty. Our other boys too, deal with these emotions and behaviors every single day.  What makes it hard is when people just don’t support what you’re trying to do to help your child in the journey of special needs. 

What I need as a mom is for someone to come alongside me and say how are things? Would you like me to take Sebastian for a bite to eat, or ice cream? How is Julian? Does he need anything? How is your marriage? Can I pray for you? My two boys without disabilities need support and that helps to support me as well. Don’t get me wrong, I am super grateful for literally the three friends I have in my life who always pray for us and ask if we need anything. I guess that’s really all I need right? “Who needs more than that?” is what my husband Kevin says. There are however, a lot more people that are just not as supportive. We are a family who needs a lot of grace.  I would love support especially from our family and friends that are close to us. If you are going through a similar situation just know that we are in your corner. You can always email us and ask us for prayer or words of encouragement as I know that can be super important when life is just downright down in the dumps. 

Im still trying to take it day by day with Jaiden as well as homeschool Sebastian who will be nine in two weeks. My older son is in college and working thankfully so he doesn’t need a lot of support, but he still needs attention and love. Kevin and I make it a point to support one another by making time for each other, doing small things for each other, and going to church as a family. Every little bit helps right?  I hope that you are doing ok with your children and that you have some supportive people in your corner.

“The Lord will fight for you, and you won’t have to do a thing.” Exodus‬ ‭14:14‬ ‭CEV‬‬

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Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Autism Parent Isolation And The Reality

We are all in the middle of some kind of isolation right now. As a parent of a child who has severe disabilities, before all of this was going on in the world, Kevin and I entered a world with extreme isolation. It wasn’t always that way as when Jaiden was little we could handle him and his behaviors, but as he started to grow up he started having a lot of sensory issues and behavioral issues that were very hard to manage out in public places.  I wonder how many of you are in the same situation? I’m talking about not being able to go to church, not being able to go to family events, not being able to go to stores, not because of a virus but because your child has severe special needs and autism. 

When Jaiden was diagnosed with autism he was almost two years old. At that time we knew that having a two-year-old would be chaotic as I already had a six-year-old and I figured that Jaiden would be rambunctious and off the chain sometimes.  Typical two-year-olds normally don’t listen, they cry a lot and want their own way. I knew Jaiden was different because of having Julian and I knew that he didn’t go through all of the things that Jaiden was going through.

At one point in our life we had two different strollers for Jaiden and then it was three. It was because he figured out how to break free from the lock harness and we then figured out that we would need a stroller with a secure lock that he could not open. We found a perfect running stroller and then a McLaren stroller was gifted to us.  The McLaren stroller is an expensive stroller with an amazing lock however it is a special needs stroller which is why it costs so much.

We don’t get paid to give you guys info about the things we use, however you can find them on Amazon or ask your local board of developmental disabilities for help. We used these strollers for church, family events and outings.

I can tell you to go out with your child anyway in public. Love them, hug them. They are who they are so you can take them to stores, church, birthday parties and you may be successful. If you are not and are 0-8 as Kevin told me clearly one day. Sit down and have a family meeting about your child and their behaviors and what you can do as a family to make it comfortable for everyone. For more on this topic listen to the latest podcast!

“Young lions may go hungry or even starve, but if you trust the Lord, you will never miss out on anything good.” Psalms‬ ‭34:10‬

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Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book is in the works and will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Staying Positive During Sick Days

So how do you stay positive when you’re not feeling very good and every symptom that appears to be allergy like or cold like you think and others think you may now have COVID-19! Jaiden has been sick for most of the week with what we now know is a sinus infection. I then got it then my oldest etc… you all know the pain, pressure, bloody nasal drainage and fatigue cause you can’t breathe.

It’s hard to be sick when you have a family to take care of. It’s hard to be positive when you have a sick child with severe special needs. He screamed, spat, punched walls, and also slammed doors a lot this week, and I knew he was sick so I tried to give him his space. I made a great meal with chicken thighs and veggies for the whole family on Wednesday. I knew Jaiden was getting better as he was smiling more and happier overall.

I went to cleanup dining room and then went to the bathroom thinking I could leave the pan on the stove with the rest of the food which was for Kevin my husband. I went to the kitchen and I saw just veggies and shreds of chicken leftover! I was like “Nooo!” He laughed so hard and I was just like oh well Kev will have a nice vegetarian meal today. Then later that night, I got sick so I really was exhausted.

Jaiden left Kevin veggies for dinner☺️

Sometimes our kids are so hard to handle. Jaiden being a teen with all sorts of medical issues has times where he is a ton to handle. He was better I was not and then my oldest came out of his room later the next day to tell me he was sick too. We all were getting sick and Jaiden was bouncing off the walls. Kevin was not his usual self this week due to an unfortunate event that happened so we’re all out of sorts.

Jaiden demands attention from all of us and he will behave negatively as well to get ANY attention. I told him “Break Time!” on our kitchen floor after I found he ate all the gas x, pepto and drank half bottle of dimetapp thankfully it’s the tiny bottle. I was relieved that it wasn’t something worse as I hide meds and vitamins very well, but because I have been not feeling well I literally have let them all do whatever they want. Terrible I know. I might have left a few meds out which yep it was those and he ate and drank them up. He has Pica so he will eat and drink pretty much anything. You can’t be sick when you have a Jaiden it’s true. I was though, and grateful for my Hubbs buying me some vitamins, 7-up, cough drops, and NyQuil and also for a great friend that came to bring me soup to get me better. Love these peeps!

Just a push from them both helped me to be more positive. Now I am getting better just like Jaiden and so is my other son. One day at a time you guys! Praying I can help push you to be a better person too when you are not feeling so great. Blessings!

Jaiden having a break on kitchen floor

“Act like people with good sense and not like fools.” Ephesians 5:15 CEV

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