When I am overwhelmed with emotions my first inclination was not always to pray, pray and pray. I used to get so overwhelmed when my son Jaiden would scream like a banshee, spit, kick, hit and throw things. He has level 3 autism, epilepsy and an intellectual disability and some days are much harder than others. I used to be obnoxious, I used to cry, scream and throw fits myself. As time has gone on, I have become much better, but only because of time in prayer, time with God, time changing my attitude towards myself and family. I remember talking with my husband Kevin about how life was just so unbearable and he said, “This is insanity Maritza, you have to change something or it will always be how it is.” He was right about the insanity part. I was truly driving myself mad. I have always struggled with depression, anxiety and anger issues that have stemmed from my own childhood going through various things. Now, I have three boys and one with severe behavioral issues. I said to myself that day, “YOU’VE GOTS TO GET IT TOGETHER GIRL!”
It has taken me sometime to get it together, however I am a work in progress like most of you are. When I am overwhelmed I now, talk to God, breathe, walk away if able to, watch something funny, drink some water, juice, lie down, listen to classical music on pandora as sometimes just music is all we need with no words as that at times too can be overwhelming. Pray. Pray. Pray. It really can be hard for some to understand exactly what that is. You don’t have to do anything extravagant when you pray. All you have to do is find a place, anywhere and talk to God about your hurts, what you are struggling with, thank him for all you have and praise him. No wonder so many parents leave their families and children behind. They are discouraged, overwhelmed with intense emotions and feel there is no way out. Notice I said “feel”. Let’s try to take emotion out of our decision making though it is dang hard at times to do so, try it and pray.
The difference between effective marriages and effective parenting is prayer. I’ve noticed that powerful marriages and powerful parents value the power of prayer. If you wish to parent your child with autism well, you must pray well. I will give you a few suggestions to help with your prayer life:
Choose a place to have prayer. A car, bathroom, outdoors anywhere you can breathe will do.
Remind yourself of why you want to be a better parent, spouse, friend, minister and really appreciate the power of prayer
Determine times you will pray. I pray in the morning when I wake with some coffee, I also pray in the afternoon when my son is eating lunch. I have learned to pray throughout my days too. This has come with lots of practice talking with God and making it a habit, again like breathing.
Prayer should be your first priority when the going gets tough. Make prayer your first priority and make time to pray. If you want more on prayer listen to the latest podcast!!
“I want everyone everywhere to lift innocent hands toward heaven and pray, without being angry or arguing with each other.” 1 Timothy 2:8 CEV
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