The Real: When People Don’t Support You

I am a wife and mom of three boys my middle son is with epilepsy, level III autism, and an intellectual disability. There have been times when people around us such as family, friends, and people that we don’t even know have not supported us concerning Jaiden and his behaviors. This can be downright hard, exhausting, and gives me some anxiety. I already have anxiety to the point where I can’t sleep at night because we have some turbulent times where Jaiden is not doing well and it carries on with me well into the night. 

For Jaiden, spitting, kicking, fighting, screaming, and other maladaptive behaviors are real. His meltdowns have become more frequent because he is going through puberty. Our other boys too, deal with these emotions and behaviors every single day.  What makes it hard is when people just don’t support what you’re trying to do to help your child in the journey of special needs. 

What I need as a mom is for someone to come alongside me and say how are things? Would you like me to take Sebastian for a bite to eat, or ice cream? How is Julian? Does he need anything? How is your marriage? Can I pray for you? My two boys without disabilities need support and that helps to support me as well. Don’t get me wrong, I am super grateful for literally the three friends I have in my life who always pray for us and ask if we need anything. I guess that’s really all I need right? “Who needs more than that?” is what my husband Kevin says. There are however, a lot more people that are just not as supportive. We are a family who needs a lot of grace.  I would love support especially from our family and friends that are close to us. If you are going through a similar situation just know that we are in your corner. You can always email us and ask us for prayer or words of encouragement as I know that can be super important when life is just downright down in the dumps. 

Im still trying to take it day by day with Jaiden as well as homeschool Sebastian who will be nine in two weeks. My older son is in college and working thankfully so he doesn’t need a lot of support, but he still needs attention and love. Kevin and I make it a point to support one another by making time for each other, doing small things for each other, and going to church as a family. Every little bit helps right?  I hope that you are doing ok with your children and that you have some supportive people in your corner.

“The Lord will fight for you, and you won’t have to do a thing.” Exodus‬ ‭14:14‬ ‭CEV‬‬

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