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How To Find Stillness With God

A lot of the times during the week I am doing things just like most of you. I am a wife, mother of three boys one with epilepsy, autism, and an intellectual disability.  I am an author, biblical counselor, and I recently started singing worship at church. A lot of the times I act like I’m in control of most of my life.

 We know that we cannot help ourselves all the time and God knows that we cannot help ourselves all the time too. God wants us to be quiet in his presence because that is when we are most able to hear him speak. When I was laid up in bed a few months back, I didn’t know if I was ever going to walk again. I feel like saying this is just sounding a bit too dramatic, but at that time I was walking with a walker I was in pain that was so intense I was unable to do much of anything. It wasn’t until I acknowledged that I needed God and I really started to rest in his presence that I started to hear him.

God is truly enough when you are suffering, he is truly enough when you are with so much anxiety you can’t even sit still. Remember when you are going through the motions of your day working at home, taking care of your family, that you need to take some time to be still. Check the latest Podcast on what Kevin and I actually do on the daily!

“He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”Psalms‬ ‭46:10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

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Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/What-Kevin-and-I-Actually-DO-eai95i

Listening to: Gone- Elevation Worship

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book Confident Autism Parenting will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!Check out my husband Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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How To Get Rid of Doubt When Parenting Your Child With Autism

How do you get rid of the doubt that you have as a parent raising a child with autism?

There are three reasons why you doubt and they are:

1. Your mind, it can be a terrible place to go sometimes. It’s so very hard when you have a child with autism and special needs that may not speak, may have erratic behaviors and you just want to make sure that you are doing everything that you can possible as a parent to make sure they’re OK in all areas. Get your mind right. Take care of yourself mentally though hard at times, try to think on good things and in turn have a good attitude and make good choices. 

2. Your attitude may need tweaked. You may have gone through a lot in your own childhood and you can’t blame those things that happened to you at the age of 10 now when you’re 40. You might have gone through so many different things in your life, you’ve gone through the diagnosis of your child, you’ve gone and done massive amounts of research about what to do for your child, with your child’s behaviors that you’ve neglected your own. Let’s say you’re 40 years old and for 30 years you’ve had negative condition.

You’ve had behavioral patterns in your life that you have not dealt with so you need to change that first. You may need to go counseling, you may need to get a coach. Get Support! I will never minimize counseling or coaching because people have struggles and challenging patterns in their lives that are real, that are traumatic. The traumas we have been through in our youth don’t justify the bad behaviors we have now as adults they need to be dealt with so that we can be better at parenting our children with autism.

3. Choice. It is your choice to doubt that you can be a great parent. Make better choices for you and for your family and choose to love them as best as you can.

Check out our latest Podcast for more information on how to stress less!

Psalm 23 1-6 NLT “The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need. He lets me rest in green meadows; he leads me beside peaceful streams. He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name. Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me. Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me. You prepare a feast for me in the presence of my enemies. You honor me by anointing my head with oil. My cup overflows with blessings. Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life, and I will live in the house of the Lord forever.” ‭

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/How-to-Get-Rid-of-Doubt-When-Parenting-Your-Child-With-Autism-eapgp3

Listening to: How Great is Our God-Hillsong

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book Confident Autism Parenting will be out soon!! https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamoliswww.bn.com/s/9781642993400If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

Kevin and I dining out with Friends
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3 Steps to More CONFIDENCE

When you have confidence you are capable of doing so many things. You will get things done because you have consistently done them over and over and over again. I have three boys one with special needs and autism and at times it can be very hard to have confidence. It has taken me years to train my brain to do the right things.
Having confidence just doesn’t happen overnight. If you do all that you can do and trust that God will help you, he will do those things you can’t. Here are 3 steps to more confidence:
1. Ask for spiritual/professional help when you need. In the Bible, it talks about how we should acknowledge God in all our ways and he will direct our steps that’s in Proverbs 3:6. Talk to God, tell him you need help, peace, direction whatever it is. If you don’t believe in God, start! I always say you have to believe. I don’t know how you could not believe in God when we all have such rough moments here on this earth. If you don’t believe, seek out a professional counselor or therapist that can help give you ways to cope through and be there to listen.
2. Create goals for your personal, family, and spiritual life. You must be willing to do your part in your life.
3. Declutter your living spaces and work spaces. That may seem outrageous to some of you. I know some of you love to hold onto all of your things, however when you start decluttering your life, your mind will also start to feel less cluttered.
Check out our latest Podcast for more information on how to stress less! 

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

‭‭John‬ ‭16:33‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/3-Steps-to-More-CONFIDENCE-eai93t

Listening to: How Great is Our God-Hillsong

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. My second book Confident Autism Parenting will be out soon!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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How To Deal with Frustrating Behaviors

Have you ever felt as though you’re all alone and your at a low point in your life where you just feel that life is just not going the way that you would like it to go? We don’t have to be ruled by our negative emotions and not only do thousands of other parents that have children with autism and special needs feel the way you do right now, but Jesus has felt that way too! At a low point in his life Jesus said “My God, oh my God, why have you forsaken me?” That is in the book of Matthew 27.

I’ve been there at a low point in my life where I told God “If you don’t rescue me in this anxiety that I am feeling I think I might run away!” That is truth and if you are reading this, you know that he rescued me right? I’m talking to all of you guys about ways that God can help you too through difficult moments you may be facing with your child. In the past two weeks Jaiden has been spitting on all of us who take care of him, hitting himself and others, walls, windows, screaming every time somebody coughs, screaming every time a dog barks and so it gets rough sometimes. I always go first to rule out the medical issues and when the medical issues are clear, I then just try to help our family adapt to whatever he is going through.

On the latest podcast I mention a few good ways to help you to deal with frustrating behaviors your child may have.

Lord, I pray for all the mothers, fathers grandparents and caregivers that are reading this today and I pray that you help them to live in your joy and peace. Give them strength and understanding to resist the anxieties, the anger and depression and hopelessness that may be surfacing in their lives. Rescue them when their spirit is overwhelmed within them and when they cry out to you hear their voice.

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/How-to-Deal-With-FRUSTRATING-behaviors-ea09bj

Listening to: Hey Look Ma I Made It -Panic At The Disco

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. The New book The Confident Autism Parent will be out soon in February 2020!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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Strategies To Cope for Isolation and Loneliness

Some of the things I wish I would’ve done early on when I struggled with isolation and loneliness was:

    Be more active in church
    Join a support group and to
    Stay connected to people who are a positive influence.

We as a family took each day as it came. However, it was very difficult to go out to parties, family gatherings and church with Jaiden as he would scream high pitch screams when upset and would have other behaviors that were maladaptive. I started blogging in 2012 and then podcasting in 2018 which helped me to connect to others online, but the people that came through for us was our church family.

Kev and I decided to change the way we were living in small increments and eventually we made a commitment to go to church on Sunday’s and to be involved as much as we could. We talked to our pastors about the needs of our family and they were open and loving. I pray that you are not lonely and in isolation. I want you to try to find a place of peace and comfort for you and your family to be free and to be able stress less when parenting your child with autism.

To hear more about tips for isolation and loneliness please listen to our current podcast!

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” Isaiah‬ ‭43:2‬ NIV

Current Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/When-you-Feel-Lonely-Strategies-to-Help-you-Get-Connected-ea09cr

Listening to: I Will Rise -Acoustic

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. The New book The Confident Autism Parent will be out soon in February 2020!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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When Tragedy Strikes: Strategies To Help You Cope

It’s hard to cope when you have a lot of stress so what do you do? Everyone has different types of stressors, but this day has been brought here for you. You may be going through a lot you may have a child or teen with autism and other issues, they may be violent, they may be aggressive, they may be on tons of medications and you may have to take them to several different therapies but believe whatever you wanna believe. I believe in each day we can start fresh. Even when the day before has had a ton of heartache and stress. We can always start and begin again. When you start to have a deep appreciation for life and people in your life that support you and your family, pray for you, they make it a point to connect with you daily or weekly, you notice love, you notice opportunities that are available for you, and you notice community.

All of your struggles are necessary to make you who you are. I know that this tragedy you are facing whatever it is, hurts deep. I really want you to release your hurts and your pains. Today, you may have just found out that your child was diagnosed with autism and in your heart you feel broken. Today, your child may be 13 like Jaiden with autism and going through hormonal changes and behavioral issues and in your heart you feel broken. The truth is right now you need to be able to adapt. So how do you cope when the tragedy strikes? Ask yourself what could you do that is good? I can tell you what I do I sit down and talk to God about it I sing worship music and really try to be present with God especially when tragedy strikes.

I know when I’m in a place of peace and freedom I make better decisions then when I am in the space of self-hatred, stress and depression you have to process what’s going on in the life of your child so that way you can figure out what to do. I know sometimes the overwhelming chorus of noise it’s heavy so that noise you can edit down on a Sunday morning or evening and save your self! Tell yourself there was a lot of noise this past week a lot of things went wrong, but how could I have met those situations differently. It’s just you God some coffee or tea and a journal. It is a difficult thing to do to cope when there have been tragedies and there have been enormous amounts of stress put on you, but you have to create strategies 2 cope now to stress less. For more tips please listen to our current podcast!

”He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us,” 2 Corinthians 1:10

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/When-Tragedy-Strikes-Strategies-to-help-you-Cope-ea09d4

Listening to: Raise A Hallelujah-Acoustic

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. The New book The Confident Autism Parent will be out soon in February 2020!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw

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Beating Burnout: Strategies To Help You Through Stress

We have had our fair share of battles in this household and some of them have been big battles. So how do you beat the burnout? I can tell you looking way back when Jaiden was initially diagnosed I tried to do so many things on my own with out putting God first and without asking my husband Kevin to help me to slow down a bit. I researched, read and read some more, called professionals and asked them about things I probably shouldn’t have asked them about. I tried to do it all and that right there was what made me break down into little pieces.

It wasn’t until I took a step back and looked at the situation at hand and realized if I didn’t change some things that our life with our children would fall apart. If you are interested in knowing more about strategies to help you through burnout check out our latest podcast!

Matthew 9:36 “When He saw the crowds, He was moved with compassion and pity for them, because they were dispirited and distressed, like sheep without a shepherd.”

Today On Our Podcast: https://anchor.fm/molisfam/episodes/Beating-Burnout-Strategies-to-Help-You-Through-Stress-ea08re

Listening to: Defender- Josie Buchanan

Get Maritza’s First Book Autism in Our Home on Amazon and Barnes and Noble Now!! Putting God first when parenting your child with autism is the best thing you can do for your family! I want to help you to get your mind right and point you to the right resources. The New book The Confident Autism Parent will be out soon in January 2020!!

https://www.amazon.com/author/maritzamolis

www.bn.com/s/9781642993400

If you wanna go much deeper than the blogs and podcasts are giving you then make sure you go to www.strategies2cope.com and I can go one on one with you. I can give you a free 10 min consultation to see if I am the right fit for you so just go to strategies2cope.com and send me a message!

Check out my husband👉🏼Kevin on his YouTube page for more tips!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClCgg1lNqI3cmeE4fBHFjvw